Baby sleeping tips: How to overcome sleepless nights

Wow, this was one heck of a 2 month period. Sleep training is NOT easy but so satisfying once you make your way through it

Full disclosure: this post may contain affiliate links

We’re 7 months on and our little angel is struggling with sleep. Ezra is happy and joyful all the way through the day, but come 5am, we’re up with him screaming. So with this in mind, we had to do something, and what we decided to do was to start sleep training him.

We tried everything, from creating routines to buying black-out blinds (this didn’t help Ezra but OH MY GOSH this made the biggest difference in our lives), from weaning him to increasing the amount that he sleeps during the day. Nothing seemed to work and it was bringing us to the brink. And yeah, we then decided to make a big decision that some people are going to judge us for – we paid for a sleep consultant.

Now before you jump in the air and raise your pitchforks (just like both of our parents did), this helped a little, but it didn’t fix the problem completely. Here is a little summary of what we did:

  1. Regulate his naps – now Ezra falls asleep at the same time everyday
  2. Regulate his diet – now Ezra eats at the same time everyday
  3. Go to bed at the same time with the same routine
  4. Wake at the same time each day
  5. Repeat

The best part of this? We were able to remove his afternoon nap to give Heather more of a life (more time to go out to see people and do things). It also allowed us to begin the weaning process properly and have a set routine.

What was the worst part about this?

We had no aftercare support. We paid more than we should we have for the support from this consultant, but once our time was up, we were left high and dry, without a clue what to do, how to progress forward or what to do next. This was a huge disappointment. So I went online to try and find something to help fix this problem, and I found Baby Sleep Miracle, which is a step by step instructional to help children sleep.

From what I’ve gathered, it is not aimed at just young babies, but for at least the first couple of years of your child’s life. It has helped us more than paying for 1-2-1 support for 2 weeks, and has cost us about £150 LESS too.

The reason why this has helped so much more is because you have the step by step guide there if something isn’t working – it is like having a user manual sitting and waiting for you to check the next step.

This is NOT a magic instant fix though – we had to work towards getting a good sleep routine for Ezra. It did not change immediately and we did have some hard nights, but working on it has paid off, and that is why I’ve come back to blogging to tell you that this will make life so much more comfortable for you.

Our main problem was making sure that Ezra would fall asleep on us before we would put him into his crib, and so each time he hit the end of a sleep cycle, he would wake up and cry, scared of where he was and why we weren’t there. He would then wake up at 4.30/5am every morning and keep us awake crying whilst we tried to calm him until we started our day at 6.30am. When we implemented the teaching in Baby Sleep Miracle we were able to start to get him into his crib AWAKE and happy, but not too awake that he wouldn’t fall asleep quickly once he had been put down. It was this fine line that meant that we had to pay attention to his triggers – namely when he started to rub his eyes or grab his ears, but would still smile and giggle whenever we sung babyshark (do do do do do do) – and this laughing is a big part of the sleep routine in this book.

If your child is struggling with sleep, then I cannot recommend this enough. I said from the very beginning of being a Dad, that whenever I found something that made a difference to my life and my family, that I was going to share it with the world.

Please share this post as much as you can and help people who are having problems with their baby’s sleeping. This program really does make the difference – this program will change your life.

Want to pick up a copy?

If you’re interested in picking up a copy of this program, you can get your version by following this affiliate link here. You can get a copy for only $37. If you pick up a copy quickly then there are a bunch of freebies that you can get with it, such as the Night Teror Stopper or the Double Trouble Sleeping Struggle for families with twins. These freebies won’t be around forever, and they’re worth a combined $200 – so its all worth it for $37!

Once you’ve read the program and implemented it, drop a comment below and let me know what you think

Link –  babysleepmiracle.com/

Why You Need to be Using ClickFunnels

Okay, so as a Dad blogger you need to ask yourself two questions:

  1. Am I doing this to be creative, to connect with people, or am I doing this for money?
  2. How am I going to reach the right audience to connect with, and those people who will buy what I am advertising?

The second question is the big one – how can I get the right people to come to my website? And not just that, but what is the best, and most effective way to make those visitors convert?

There is no point in paying to drive traffic to a website that doesn’t convert – where the language isn’t selling products to people, it is just telling your traffic about the product. Same goes for your time – are you spending hours on social media every day trying to get people to your website? Think about how much your time is worth – are you earning enough money to make your hourly wage?

I would guess that maybe 90% of people reading this blog post are not earning their hourly wage through blogging and affiliate marketing. And I would also guess that a lot of you are one failing blog post away from quitting. Don’t worry if you feel like this – we all have had those feelings. I’ve had them, but you need to keep going. 

What if I told you that there is a tool out there that has been developed, split tested and built purely to help people with their conversions? A tool that helps you guide people to your squeeze page, and helps you build a sales funnel that is likely to build your conversions by 33% in a really short period of time? Would you be interested?

Of course you would. And what if I told you that there is a full a FREE guide and tutorial for how to use this tool? Videos and written content by experts that help you because a sales funnel GOD? Again, of course you would want this – you would be a FOOL to not want to try this to build your business.

This tool is Click Funnels. It is an intuitive and stylish web tool that is built to hold your hand, step by step, in building a sales funnel with the right squeeze page, right up selling tools to make MORE money, and the right analytics software to develop your skills even further. 

Clickfunnels is proven to increase online income, and it is proven to help drive the right traffic to your page. It also has tools to help you build an email collection page, to then provide you with another stream of income for your affiliate marketing. 

So how can you dive straight into Clickfunnels and convert from the get-go? They have put together a training service called Affiliate Bootcamp. A training program that is FREE to use, and is broken down into a step by step process that teaches you 

  1. how to set up an email squeeze page
  2. How to set up your first funnel
  3. How to drive the right traffic to your website
  4. How to use Facebook ads
  5. And even more!!

Combine the Affiliate Bootcamp with Clickfunnels, and you are almost guaranteed to increase your profits by huge levels. You have no reason to not give it a go. If you sign up today, you can get a 14 day free trial to Clickfunnels. So give it a go – I promise that you won’t regret it 

If you need any help, I am always available to give advice. You can either drop a comment below to ask for help, or email me on jack.woods@upcomingdad.com

Believe me, I would not be advertising this if I did not trust the product. Investing in a program is always a difficult decision to make for dads on a side hustle, but this will make a difference, I guarantee it. This gives you the chance to add to your income and provide more for your family. Read up on it, and go chance your business

Thanks guys! I’ll speak to you again soon

New Dads Questions Answered – A Masterclass in How to Write an eBook, & A Survival Guide for New Dads Everywhere

If you’re looking for a book that is going to provide you with a simplistic breakdown of how to be the best dad possible, then New Dad’s Questions Answered is the book for you. I wish that this was released during our pregnancy, because there are so many little snippets around finding a name, or buying things for the baby, that are the stresses that we endured, and the author Stuart Hood provides little tips and tricks for them in this book. 

The book is raw and honest, and covers the life experiences of Stuart, and whilst every child is going to be brought up differently, with their own problems and their own quirks, this book is more reassuring than anything else. You may not have the same experiences as him, but you will definitely be able to apply Stuart’s experiences to your own in some capacity.

The books writing style and language is extremely approachable. It is funny, to the point and has little ‘fluff’ to pad it out and break away from the real point of the conversation. The “chapters” are 1-5 page long answers to the burning questions that dads are going to have. If you’re ever planning to write an eBook, then I’d advise this style – it makes everything a LOT easier to understand. 

My experience of parenting so far has been a bit of firefighting. Baby Ezra has been quite ill in his 10 weeks on this earth, which has made it difficult to create a routine. So for my wife and I, we have often thought “we will deal with this problem now and then when the next thing comes along, we can tackle that at the time”. I knew that there would be specific things to deal with, like lack of sleep (for us, and for baby Ezra), returning to work, changes in food causing problems, or weening…teething…girlfriends…mortgages (I might be thinking a bit far ahead with some of these) but having read Stuart’s book, it became apparent that I just didn’t consider some things that absolutely seem logical! 

I guess that number 1 would be changing nappies once Baby Ezra starts wriggling around more, or rolling over. I didn’t think that it would get any more difficult… but apparently I was wrong to think that! With this in mind, I would recommend the book even if it just gets you to think about what is coming. I definitely read the book with that mindset from this point on. 

So what is the number one bit of advice that the book provides? In my opinion, it is the advice to look through dad websites. I did a lot of this before Ezra was born, and whilst I was on paternity leave, but when I returned to work I absolutely stopped. 

Yes, I have a strong dad community around me, but its not the same as something like father-hood.co.uk – which has changed my life in the past week!

New Dad’s Questions Answered is, in my opinion, at it’s more raw and honest (which, lets be honest, is what we need from Dad books and websites… no fluffy BS but real experiences written in real ways) when Stuart explains his experience around finding new dad mates, and how difficult this was for him. It also led to my favourite quote from the entire book

“brave? It a baby class, not a public back sack and crack waxing!”

Whats the verdict?

This is the best parenting book that I have read due to the approachable writing style, and short 1-5 page “chapters”. Each answers a specific question, so you can either search for what you’re looking for or just read it from start to finish. I found that I could pick it up for 10minutes on my lunch break and then get back to work!

I’ve learnt so much from this book and would recommend it to anyone. Please head on over to this affiliate link amazon.co.uk and pick up a copy for yourself. This is a £5 well spent (and if you really think about it, £5 is just 2 less trips to Starbucks this week! All of the knowledge in this book is worth bringing your own coffee to work for a couple of days). 

I really have to thank Stuart for giving me a copy of his book. I’ve learnt so much, and it is nice to know that I’m not alone in my patenting insecurities. I really recommend that you purchase this book and learn from Stuart on a daily basis! The man is an excellent father and an all around nice guy. My review of his book is late due to my sons health (its been a rough 10 weeks for baby Ezra!), and he has been so gracious with the delay. 

Thank you Stuart for everything you’ve taught me, and I hope that everyone that reads this post is going to run out and pick up a copy for themselves. You will NOT regret it. 

I would rate this book 5/5 stars

Want to pick up a copy?

If you’re interested in picking up a copy of this book, you can get it on Kindle by following this affiliate link here. You can get a copy for your kindle for only £4.99. It has a lot of advice for post-birth and can be really helpful in the future. 

Link –  amazon.co.uk

‘Naturebond ‘ – The Perfect Manual Breast Pump for Daddy Bonding for an Incredible Price

Bonding with your baby is so important, but as we don’t have boobs, us Dads can’t do a lot during feeding times. Naturebond is an easy to use pump that allows Mum to easily express the milk that Dad can feed with. The best thing is that it is really affordable too. You can pick one up on Amazon for only £12.99!

How does it work?

Naturebond is effectively a suction cup breast pump that mimics the feed of a baby latching on to mum. This allows for a steady stream of milk to be expressed, that can either immediately be put into a sterilised bottle and fed by Dad, or put in the fridge for future use.

It is made from silicon, and therefore is moldable – you simply squeeze the bottle and then attach it onto Mum’s breast. The suction mimics your baby and the milk will start to flow! A great thing is that because it is a suction, you can leave it to dangle and it will hang on whilst it is doing all of the work. This becomes a little more difficult when it is filling up because the weight may cause it to fall though.

One of the big benefits is that if your baby won’t latch, then you can still provide them with all of the benefits of breast milk whilst bottle feeding. Some Mums may struggle to not be able to breastfeed, but this way we, and Mum,  know that baby is still getting everything they need from the action, without actually doing it.

How can we use it as Dads?

What I found is that whilst baby Ezra is feeding off one breast, I could hold the Naturebond, express 20-40ml of milk, and save it for a night time feed, and allow my wife to get some rest.

Cleaning

You can clean it easily with a washing up brush and some soapy water. Because it is silicon it is really easy to clean too. Remember that you NEED TO dry this off properly though. Do NOT forget to do this.

If you have a steriliser (a good Tommie Tippee steriliser can be found here) then throw this in there too. Just to make it doubly safe. At the time of this post, the steriliser kit is only £59.99, down from £159.99, so you HAVE to pick one up if you need one. You won’t get one this cheap again for a while.

Where are the problems?

 

This is really important – You need to not overuse it

Using a breast pump can lead to an overproduction of milk. Mums body might think that it has to feed twins if you do this too regularly, so you’ll end up with too much milk and the boobs can have a bit of a constant leak. Not only that but it can lead to some engorgement which may cause Mum some pain. The way to get around this is to only express when her body is ready to feed, but your baby isn’t. We use it every night at around 3am – I use the previous night’s milk with Ezra, and Heather will express then. This just makes it a bit easier on her in the long run.

Also, there is a big spill risk. My wife had a massive milk supply (about 40ml) and it lost suction… we ended up changing the bed at around 4 in the morning because the sheets were covered in breast milk! Whilst you can just leave it suctioned to the boob and get on with what you were doing, I’d advise holding it as much as possible.

The spillage shouldn’t be a problem, but if you struggle with your supply then this is a BIG risk as it can lead to you not having enough for baby at this time.

What’s the verdict?

This is an affordable product with excellent versatility. It’s cheaper than a full-on breast pump and a hell of a lot more compact than other pumps. It does have downfalls, but these are all easily overcome.

I would advise anyone to use a Naturebond, because we use one, and I wouldn’t allow my wife and son to use it if I didn’t feel that it was safe and useful.

It is extremely compact and can be carried anywhere without bother – just keep some sterilised containers for the supply wherever you go (if you pick up the kit from this link, then you will get a supply of 6 pots that can be used).

If you can’t afford to get a proper breast pump, then the Naturebond is everything that you need. There is a real use in the world for a Naturebond, so you should definitely pick one up. As it is only £12.99, there isn’t a huge risk of lost money if you end up not expressing much in the future.

Due to the spillage risk and the always present risk that comes with pumping and expressing, I rate this product a 3.5/5 – although it could easily be a 4.5/5 due to the incredible price.

Want to pick one up?

Amazon is the easiest place to go to pick up a Naturebond. Only £12.99 and is available with Prime delivery.

Link = amazon.co.uk

 

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The Best Parenting Book For Dads in 2018 – The Expectant Dad’s Survival Guide

Book Club: Chapter 1 – Expectant Dads Survival Guide

For my 27th birthday, my sister bought me the Expectant Dad’s Survival Guide by Rob Kemp. She knew that I hadn’t read any baby books yet (we were nearly 6 months pregnant…OOOPS!), so she decided to research and find a book that is all encompassing. Something that would be able to cover a lot in a single book. 

I didn’t have a lot of time each day to read (still don’t…) but this book is broken down in such a way that you can read for 15 minutes and learn something everyday. So I committed to turning up to work between 8 and 8.15, before my 8.30am start, and sit in my car to read. 

No word of a lie, this is how I best found myself to be informed about pregnancy, labour and parenthood. Yes, I was 6 months in to the pregnancy, but I made sure to start this book from the beginning. 

How is it laid out?

The book is broken down into the different stages of the labour, and explains what you need to know for that time period, and how it will affect the future. This goes into the smaller details of mum’s first showing, to scans, how to apply for paternity leave etc. All the way through to everything you need to know about labour, the different pain relief methods, different types of delivery etc. 

Not only is it broken down into time periods, but also into information section – this made it very easy to digest small amounts of information on a daily basis. 

The thing that I like most about this book, is that every chapter has some comments from real dads talking about their experiences of that specific topic. It shows you a more personal perception of those stages, rather than a clinical approach to this information. There are also a multitude of health care professionals (doctors, nurses, midwives, psychologists etc.) that weigh in on multiple topics. These two different groups of people show you both the personal and professional side to pregnancy, as well as teaching you the clinical information you need to know (like how induction works, growth scans etc.) and then the real nitty gritty “this is how I felt during our first ultrasound” input from real dads. Its a great balancing act. 

The book contains information on things that you just wouldn’t normally think about – like making sure that your missus doesn’t change the cat’s litter tray (because of toxoplasmosis), and how to get your baby home, adjusting to the new life as a dad etc. 

How would I improve it?

I would improve is removing some of the waffle. The book is 272 pages (only about 250 are the main content – there are then a bunch of resources after the main content that you HAVE to use. It will change your pregnancy) but could maybe be reduced to about 200-220. The waffle is there to help you connect to the author, and to keep the tone consistent; however some people just want the raw, factual information, which isn’t necessarily this book. I did find myself skipping some of the real dad’s stories to get to the main content of the book… I might have missed out some life changing information, but I still feel extremely informed.

Also, getting into this book a couple months late made the start of the book effectively useless. It was still interesting to read and to learn about, and I would say my knowledge of pregnancy and how to help my wife was improved in the last trimester because of it.

Whats the verdict?

The book is great – I learnt more from this book than every antenatal class that I went to. The chapters are broken down really well, so just reading for 15-25minutes per day paired really well with the layout. If you can get into the book early on in your pregnancy, then this will be a very good guide to keep you going. 

The book looks at the changes in the way that men are treated during the pregnancy and labour process, and helps give advice to us to help us through the new cultural norms and requirements put on us throughout this time of our lives. Its useful, and culturally appropriate. 

This book works hand in hand with my blog, because it is all about empowering men during pregnancy, labour and parenthood. It is written by a dad, for dads and it is filled with the knowledge that Rob Kemp wishes he knew before his kid came along. I really strongly recommend it to you. 

I would rate this book 4/5 stars

Want to pick up a copy?

If you’re interested in picking up a copy of this book, you can get it on Kindle or paperback by following this link here. You can get a copy for as little as a penny if you buy it second hand, or £7.99 to get it on kindle. Lots of people are selling this book once they finished reading it, but my advice to you is to keep it around once done. It has a lot of advice for post-birth and can be really helpful in the future. 

Link – amazon.co.uk

The Best Video Baby Monitor under £100 in 2018

hb32-1The incredible HelloBaby Wireless Video Baby Monitor HB32 is, in our opinion, the best baby monitor on the market. Before our little Peanut was born, we spent a lot of time looking for a baby monitor, and of all of the options that we looked through, the HelloBaby HB32 is the one that has stood out for us. It is the best value for money on the market under £100.

Before I start looking into the product – you may get a lot of feedback from friends and family, who say that you don’t need a baby monitor before your little one comes along (as they will basically be stuck to your side for the first 6 months); however, I would disagree. You are much more likely to have the expendable cash before the baby comes, so this is the perfect time to afford the best quality product.

Why is it so awesome?

I can’t speak for the smaller sizes, but our experience of the HB32 shows that this really is an awesome baby monitor. I’m sure that the camera quality, microphone and infrared are all built with the same quality as the larger size. 

  • The screen comes in 3 different sizes 2.0”, 2.5” and 3.2” (we bought the 3.2”). The monitor is only 522g, and so the smaller sizes are likely to be significantly lighter than this. 
  • The baby monitor has an LCD screen on the portable video monitor, and the camera has infrared night vision and temperature monitoring. The image quality is excellent during daylight – absolutely fantastic. But the night vision camera isn’t the best I’ve ever seen. Its hard to make things out (at first anyway) but eventually you will know what to look out for. 
  • 2x zoom – for upcoming first time dads, you won’t be able to appreciate this (yet!) but having the function to zoom in on your baby’s face and just watch them breath is incredible. This is my favourite part of the device, and probably the number 1 reason we went for this product. 
  • Has two-way-talking function. Not only can you hear your little one, but you or your baby-mama can sing a lullaby to them from a different room. Or you can play a prank on her whilst she’s changing the baby, and speak down the microphone at a random point!…I haven’t done this yet, and will let you know how it goes when I do!
  • Warranty – comes with a 5 year warranty
  • Sensitive microphone – the microphone is extremely sensitive and will help you be able to pay attention to the most minuet of sounds, even small rolling sounds. Possibly the best function of the device is that it starts to auto-mute the microphone once the volume gets to below 50db for 7seconds. This can help to give you peace of mind that your little’un is perfectly safe, sound and asleep. But as soon as there is noise again it will pick it up. 
  • Value for money – More or less the same video and sound quality as top of the range monitors like Amazon Echo or Motorola monitors. Both produce great sound quality, direct camera angles and an easy to use hud.hb32-3
  • Temperature Marking – We have a Gro Egg in our nursery to help make sure that the room is at the perfect heat – definitely also advise these. But this monitor will show you the room temperature at any time so you can keep an eye on whats best for your baby, even downstairs.

What is it missing?

  • NO mobile functionality. There are options available like the Fredi Wireless Monitor that can be set up with your smartphone, rather than having a specific monitor screen for the camera. However, whilst this has some convenience, such as checking on your baby from the office, having a specific monitor screen in the house is the best way to go. But really, the extra functionality would be nice. This is my main problem with the product.
  • A big house could be a bit of a problem – Depending on the size of your house, you may not be able to stay connected with the camera. Yes, you’d need to have a HUGE house for the 960ft range to be a problem, but there are people out there that would experience this problem. 
  • Camera angles only tilt 120degrees, and it has to be sat on the base. What I would have liked is to have the camera be able to be fixed to the wall and have the angle completely adjusted. It is slightly limited, but for 99% of people out there, this isn’t a problem. I only raise it as I would have preferred some extra functionality. 

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Whats the verdict?

Well… we bought one, so we think its great! It is significantly better than an Amazon Alexa, and it has a better screen and clearer picture quality than other baby monitors like the Zeepin SP880 or Motorola Digital Video Monitor MBP35XLC. 

It might take a couple of days to get used to the night vision, but persevere. 

The HelloBaby HB32 has great value for money (we bought the 3.2” screen), and it has five years warranty to keep you going. The product is designed with a sleeping baby in mind, which is why it works so well. 
Whilst you cannot connect the monitor up to your smart phone, this baby monitor is still highly rated, with great audio and even better picture. 

We rate this 4/5 stars

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Want to pick one up?

I’ve checked through the internet, and the best place to find the HB32 is on Amazon. You can pick up all 4 sizes between £59.99 and £99.99. If you have Amazon prime you can get free next day delivery too!

Link = amazon.co.uk